Have you ever been asked that question and straight up smile and say “yeah, I’m fine!” Knowing deep down you’re not but you don’t want to talk about it as you don’t what them to see you cry! “Be strong!” Is what I tell myself, “you have too many people depending on you and you have to suck it up, hide it and try your hardest to be happy even if you’re not!”
I constantly battle with myself on being strong, I was raised as you don’t cry, you don’t talk about you emotions… if you do, then you’re weak! Which is usually why I try so hard to hide it or say I am fine even when I am not.
That was one of the biggest things I knew for sure I’d never carry over to my children. If they’re upset and want to cry, damn it, they can cry. I teach my oldest daughters that there is no such thing as “weak” when it comes to emotions. We are human therefore crying and feeling is NATURAL! Once my son gets older I will NEVER allow him to turn off his emotions either. It’s okay if a boy/man cries or becomes upset too, it’s perfectly NORMAL!
I’ve heard so many people tell their sons “suck it up, your a boy!” “Boys don’t cry stop that!” I will not tolerate that towards my kids. For you to shut off their emotions and making them “strong” is what will make them dislike themselves, dislike their lives and will make them angry all the time. We are the protectors and the teachers, what our children learn from us can and will shape them for their future and how they will act when they’re older. We must encourage our children that talking about they’re emotions and/or crying is not weakness!
We must also lift ourselves up and not be afraid of our own emotions, do not be afraid to cry or ask for help. We are only human as well and as moms, we have so much on our plate that letting it out can help relieve some of that emotional pain.
Love you guys,